We have all seen the promoting of ‘going green’ and ‘zero waste’. But how many have actually started implementing changes in their homes to help to reduce their waste and carbon footprint? Looking after the environment and everything in it is an important task, that we all play a part in. Teaching children about zero waste and looking after the environment can be not only a beneficial activity but also a very fun one!
No secrets – just surprises. This is a rule that many are now starting to enforce.
One of the main goals we have as parents and caregivers is to ensure the protection and safety of our children. Many would look at secrets and think that they are harmless. In many cases they are. However there are some secrets that should not be kept.
Unfortunately there are people out there that will use secrets to their advantage and at times may use them in order to hide something that is hurting your child.
It is something that we never want to think about, however child abusers are out there. Someone who is abusing a child will often tell them that its “our little secret” to ensure that they don’t tell anyone.
Self care for working mums – it is not as hard as you may think! Have you ever hidden in the bathroom from your children? Just for a few minutes so that you can have a little bit of peace and quiet?
Don’t worry! We have all done it at one point or another.
Running off to the bathroom to hide should not be classed as a break. It is not a way to relax or unwind from the busy lifestyle we have. Especially if you are also working on top of being a mum.
Self-care is a very important thing, that in many cases gets pushed aside for the needs of others. As busy working mums, we put everyone else and all the other tasks ahead of ourselves.
Although this is very selfless of us, sometimes we simply need to be selfish and put ourselves first.
What is self care for working mums?
Self-care is just as it sounds, giving care to ourselves. Ever heard the saying “happy wife, happy life”?
Well it is true! If we are spending all our time focusing on others and not looking after ourselve
s it can result in negative energy, risks to health in both physical and mental ways and can overall make a person unhappy.
Self-care helps to bring balance and health back to the person who is practicing it.
When it comes to self-care and what you need to be doing, there are many different ways that you can practice self-care. It really comes down to personal preference.
How can I practice self-care?
Self-care does not need to involve spending hours on end looking out for just yourself. It can be as simply as making sure that you are sitting down to eat a healthy breakfast. Or drinking your first cup of coffee whilst it is still hot (the ultimate goal right?)
It could be that you give yourself 15 minutes a day to read a few pages of a book, or go for an afternoon stroll.
Mediation is another form of self-care that many people enjoy. You can relax in a soothing bath, complete a yoga routine or sit and do deep breathing for a few minutes.
How do I achieve self care for working mums?
As a working mum, your days are probably pretty full with different things to do. After the work day is over, it is time to come home. Go through the dinner, bath and bedtime routines with the kids. There never seems to be enough time in the day.
However it is time to start making time – your self-care is important and should not be put on the back burner any longer.
Some people enjoy getting up a little bit earlier than the rest of the family and using this time to focus on themselves, or others will use time after everyone has gone to bed. Speak to your partner and let them know the importance of self-care (for both of you) and work out a routine where you can both get some time to yourselves to do something just for you.
Organising your day and the tasks within it will not only help with making the day run smoother. But it will also help you to have some time put aside for you and what you need to do to achieve your daily dose of self-care.
But what about everyone else?
I know it sounds super selfish but sometimes you need to just think about yourself. You are no less of a mother or partner if you leave your family to fend for themselves for a bit. It might even be beneficial for them.
As parents, we spend all of our time worrying about our children, the next thing we need to do and how to please everyone.
Take a break from that each day and focus on yourself and what YOU need. Your needs are no less important than everyone else’s. In fact yours are probably more important. If your health or mental state starts to suffer, the whole families will and everyone will be able to see it.
So what now?
Now, it is time to go make a fresh cup of coffee, or call the salon and book in your next hair appointment.
Do not feel guilty or embarrassed – it is time to think about YOU.
How many times have you had to run the opposite way with your child in the supermarket because they have blurted out something that that has embarrassed you or made you very uncomfortable in front of someone else? Let’s talk about teaching children kindness.
Children at times can be very blunt and straightforward with their words (also read: savage). Although to them, they do not know any different. They are not always aware that what they are saying could be hurtful or unkind to someone else.
Teaching children kindness is just one of the many different life skills that we should be teaching. The act of kindness and being kind to others is something that everyone should learn about and put into practice.
So how do you teach a child about kindness?
Teaching children kindness. From the beginning
The first thing to do is to explain to them what kindness is. Without them knowing what it is, it is hard for them to learn how to be kind to others. And what things they should and shouldn’t say to others.
Not only do they need to know what kindness is, but they also need to know what hurtful means as well. If they understand what being hurtful means and how it can make another person feel, they will be less likely to say or do hurtful things towards others.
Teach them about being in the other persons shoes
A great way to teach your children about kindness is by getting them to think about it from the other persons shoes. If they say something hurtful, ask them if they would like someone to say that to them.
By placing them in the other persons shoes it will help them to understand that the things that they are saying, could one day be said to them as well. If it is something that they do not want said to them – they are less likely to say it to someone else.
Reminding them of this regularly will help them to focus on kindness and the right things to say and do.
If you have nothing nice to say….
It may be an old saying, but it is one that is still relevant today.
Teach your children that if they do not have anything nice to say, than don’t say anything at all.
Getting them to focus on only saying the nice things and pushing back any negative things that they may want to say will help them to work towards showing kindness and love to others around them.
There will be times when they think (or say out loud) negative things. These situations should start to decrease once they start learning about and focusing on being kind to others.
Teach them to smile and be friendly
A smile is a perfect way to show kindness to others. Teaching your children that kindness comes in many forms will help them to find their way towards showing it to others.
Kindness isn’t just about saying nice things to other people. A simple smile is a perfect way to be kind to another person. Being friendly towards those around them is another way.
By being friendly, starting a conversation or smiling as someone walks past they are showing they are a kind hearted person.
Teaching Children Kindness. With Manners
Teach your children to use their manners, not just with you but with everyone that they encounter.
A simple ‘please’ and ‘thank you’ go a long way with anyone. It shows their appreciations, gratitude and kindness.
A child may think that using their manners is a way to get what they want. But it is so much more and it is important that they know the importance of using their manners in every situation.
Children all learn in different ways, some will pick it up quickly and others may take a little longer.
The important thing is that you are teaching them to the best of your ability. And that you remind them of what will come of them being kind to others.
And most importantly is make sure that you are also practicing what you are preaching. Children watch us as parents and everything we do. I mean EVERYTHING! So if you are being unkind to others, they will see this and mimic the behaviours.
Be kind, teach kindness and be happy!
Has your mum voice ever been loud enough that your neighbours have started to brush their teeth or clean their rooms? It has happened to the best of us. Let’s look at how being a calmer parent can change this.
Let’s face it, kids can be little savages at times. They can definitely get on our nerves. However reacting with yelling, frustration or anger is not going to help the situation. It will most likely make it worse and it will end in a lot of tears and emotions from both sides. Read More